Habits that earn you respect by adam kidanThe debate as to whether or not it’s better to be liked or respected has been raging since the dawn of time.  Is it possible to be both, or are they mutually exclusive?  I recently came across an article that discussed this question, and argues that yes, you can indeed be both.  Here is what they said you have to do to make that happen:

Underpromise and overdeliver: First coined by Tom Peters in his book “In Search of Excellence”, he argues that his is the most valuable strategic edge you can adopt.  While getting faster at responding to customers is essential, it’s also more important than ever to live up to commitments.  This doesn’t mean you should spread yourself too thin, but rather make sure you keep your word to everybody from clients to employees.

Show appreciation: Leaders such as Mattel CEO Robert A Eckert have made it a habit to show their appreciation.  Mattel’s recent turn around has been attributed to Eckert’s simply saying “thank you”.  Leaders can also show their appreciation by acknowledging the work of employees and praising their work in public, writing handwritten letters, personalizing messages and creating a culture of gratitude.

Be humble: When team members are humbler, they can solve problems together and have the power to learn.  Showing humility on a daily basis includes using your mistakes as teachable moments, engaging in dialogues, welcoming uncertainty and empowering others to lead.

Share their vision: Individuals create their own mission statement as part of beginning with the end in mind.  Whether this is a daily mantra or quote that’s associated with you, creating and sharing your vision can help you keep your employees focused and boost their morale.

Tell the truth: A respected leader is honest and willing to give people they care about honest feedback and advice.  Being transparent with their employees will ultimately build trust, since it proves that you have confidence in them.

Be productive: There’s a difference between being productive and just busy.  Productive individuals have a mission, fewer priorities, aren’t afraid to say “no”, take their time with tasks and want others to be effective as well.

Seek and share knowledge: Leaders need to constantly be learning and bettering themselves, which will allow them to share what knowledge they have and help others.  They can seek that knowledge through reading, listening to others, sharing presentations and joining workshops.

Be passionate: Respected people are passionate and unabashed about their beliefs, such as Mark Cuban.  Cuban is opinionated, but lovable, because his outlandishness is more authentic than just trying to generate publicity.

Measure your progress: The most effective leaders need to find a way to measure their progress; maybe keep a diary to see how you and your priorities have grown.

Influence others to become leaders: Great leaders don’t just make followers happy, but inspire more leaders with their examples.  When team members go on to bigger and better things in life, they’re excited instead of threatened.